Written by: Brittany Naturaltylist M. of Let’s #BeWomen Support Group
While we are still just getting our feet wet into this new year of 2018, I’m sure lots of you have already made some “New Year’s resolutions”, some have decided to do away with the tiresome tradition, and others seem to just be pleasantly proud of who they were in 2017, with no desire for change. Continue reading →
Australian newscaster Karl Stefanovic wore the same suit every day for a year to draw attention to an all too common form of sexism. Co-host of the Australian morning news show “Today,” Stefanovic became frustrated with the unsolicited fashion advice and appearance-based criticisms viewers regularly offered his female co-presenter, Lisa Wilkinson. He then decided to conduct an experiment. He wore the same blue suit on air every day for a year, and, as the TV personality revealed to Fairfax Media, absolutely nobody said a thing:
No one has noticed; no one gives a sh*t. But women, they wear the wrong colour and they get pulled up. They say the wrong thing and there’s thousands of tweets written about them. Women are judged much more harshly and keenly for what they do, what they say and what they wear.
I’ve worn the same suit on air for a year –- except for a couple of times because of circumstance –- to make a point. I’m judged on my interviews, my appalling sense of humour – on how I do my job, basically. Whereas women are quite often judged on what they’re wearing or how their hair is … that’s [what I wanted to test].
According to Debora Spar, President of Barnard College and author of “Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection,” such scrutiny of appearance is a reality for many women today.
Don’t let the scrutiny of others impact you because you are fearfully and wonderfullymade. Though it seems like a cute churchy saying, this verse says that God made you special. God has a special purpose and plan for you. Be not only confident but comfortable in who you are because you are intentionally uniqueUnder Your Brim!
My childhood was challenging. I grew up in a tough area in the Bronx where survival was more important than education. Running home from school to avoid fights and gunshots was normal. Then, already in a small apartment, my cousins came to live with us after my uncle, a drug dealer was murdered and my aunt was sent to a recovery program for help with her addiction to crack cocaine. Add-in my ailing grandmother who was struggling with Alzheimer’s and it made for some tough times. But the toughest part by far was when my father left us just shy of my sixteenth birthday.
Often times I felt life wasn’t fair. I didn’t choose these circumstances, I was thrust in to them. And as I grew older these tough childhood experiences created feelings of inadequacy as I thought people would judge me because of where I was from or my broken family. But my childhood experiences could not limit God. God had a plan for my life. He would use me anyway despite where I come from and what shortcomings I had.
Maybe you’ve had a challenging childhood and question God’s purpose for your life. You wonder why you’ve been dealt such a tough hand. You may even feel angry that you have not had some of the same opportunities others have had. Do not let your experiences limit what God can do! God has a plan for you. Despite whatever difficulties you have faced in your childhood – rejection, abandonment, loneliness, abuse, sickness – God has a great plan for you too! A plan to make you great. Adapt a new way of thinking about your future by meditating on these 4 verses:
God has made us what we are, and in our union with Christ Jesus he has created us for a life of good deeds, which he has already prepared for us to do. – Ephesians 2:10 (GNT)
O Lord, you protect and save me; your care has made me great. – Psalm 18:35 (GNT)
Every child of God can defeat the world, and our faith is what gives us this victory. – 1 John 5:4 (CEV)
The thief comes only in order to steal, kill, and destroy. I have come in order that you might have life – life in all its fullness. – John 10:10 (GNT)
Nena Podbury is a project associate at American Bible Society. Originally from the Bronx, she has co-authored children’s curriculum and served in children’s ministry for 12 years doing Sidewalk Sunday School. Nena is married with two children, Noah and Emilia.
My friends and I are all women of a certain age who agree to be over the dating scene. We have married and divorced, date, raised our families, loved, lost and are in the ‘I’m Every Woman era of ME’ rebuilding phase of our lives. One girls night-in we got together for movie night and continued the dating conversation over snacks with the silly shenanigans of a RomCom – He’s Just Not that Into You. Continue reading →
Target has made my entire life with their most recent bathing suit ads. Have you heard about the untouched ads? No Photoshop (you heard me) no airbrushing out the stretch marks or crow’s feet no adding sparkles to the eyes or trimming the thighs. The photos in this swimsuit campaign show a variety of the real humans that will be shopping for swimsuits this spring. Real skin, real shapes and sizes.
In a shoot for its new swim line, Target is my hero for taking a logical stance and not inundating me with size zero models splayed out on the beach in a drop-dead-gorgeous bathing suit that my upper half can’t fit and my lower half laughs at me for even thinking about trying. The photos, which debuted Thursday in a press release, are being lauded for featuring a wide range of ethnicities and body types — and above all else for boldly ditching Photoshop entirely.
Can we take a pause and look at the range of suits? OMGEEEE a two-piece that doesn’t make me look like I’m a member of the YMCA synchronized swim team!! Plus-size (which just means you don’t wear an A cup) offerings that aren’t limited to that one-piece with triple thick straps; instead, intricate crisscrossed detailing, vivid bright colors, prints and cutouts are readily available.
This is a great move for Target, which has steadily been making its swimwear offerings more inclusive over the past several years. This is just another step in this inclusion. Back in 2015 Target launched a campaign called “Target Loves Every Body,” with the main goal being to “bring the fun” back to swimsuit shopping for women of all sizes. Bring back fun is great but there is also a business strategy here. When Aerie stopped photoshop-ping its ads, for example, sales spiked 20 percent. The other reason is less scientific – maybe just maybe people want to buy swimsuits that were genuinely designed with them in mind. We send you cheers of Thank You Target. What are your thoughts from Under Your Brim?
I saw this and thought about how many doctors appointments, dentist and Urgent Care visits I’ve made for my children or someone else in my family. The truth is parents often leave themselves out of the doctor, dentist, ophthalmologist rotation when taking kids to get those needed sports physicals, grade specific vaccines and nurse-just-sent-home-a-note-that-your-child needs an eye doctor appointment. If the title of this post didn’t get your attention, I certainly hop Lorna’s story does. Continue reading →